Quote: My advice to you is to not make any "deals" to get sex. IMO the only things you should do to be sexually attractive to your spouse are the same things you would do to be sexually attractive to a complete stranger.
Don't worry. I wouldn't actually make a deal like that. (He'd find a way to get out of it, anyway.)
Here is my question: at what point does the HD spouse give up on trying to be sexually attractive to the LD spouse? 'Cuz honestly, I have tried this way, that way, and 100 other ways to be more sexually attractive to him and NOTHING works. I've lost a buncha weight. I've grown my hair out. I've bought sexy lingerie. I've gotten up earlier than him and fixed my hair and makeup. I've given him massages. You name it, I've probably tried it. (Including the opposite which is doing NOTHING hoping he'd notice THAT!)
Meanwhile, every time he (in my eyes) rejects my attempts to become more attractive sexually, I quash yet another HD part of myself. It's to the point where I *am* becoming more sexually attractive to other men and I'm a bit scared by the thrill I'm starting to get from that. I've slid down the slippery slope of adultery before (previous marriage, not this one) and I do NOT want to go there again.
