My check list is to
1) be more aggressive
2) take more control ie grab her hair
3) start writing a story about a white hair, puritan named...oh yeah I got to make up my own. I will say the lead in to your story is compeling

I'll check out the story link, as far as writing my own...I'll have to severly edit my fantasies if I'm to adapt them to her. I'm pretty sure mine would offend her.