Quote: When she reads these novels she becomes this person and in effect falls in love with the character. The more I thought about this the more it bothered me. Isn't this is like an EA?
I wouldn't worry about it too much. I read romance novels sometimes as well as other erotic fiction. The sexual situations and characters in romance novels are very standardized and shallow. There isn't enough "character" in the male characters for your W to actually have an EA with one.
If I were you, I would read a couple romance novels to get an idea of the kind of sexual situation which your W probably fantasizes about. If she reads the kind of pot-boiler romances that have men like Fabio on the cover, she probably wants you to be quite forceful in your LM. If you have any sort of "inner pirate" bring him out. Try ripping her bodice, pinning her down or maybe even a little "lite" discipline. She doesn't want to have sex with Fabio, but she probably has a sexual preference for the sort of activities that are in these books.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
