It’s been awhile since I posted, I’ve been reading and enjoying everyone’s in-sights and efforts to better their lives. I’ve learned a lot and I first want to think everyone here.
My story (details are in the forum somewhere) but could easily be the same story posted here everyday. Just change the names and you’re there. I’ve been working on this issue for years but don’t feel I’ve made much progress. She says she’ll read SSM but never does, she’ll agree that things need to change but never takes any kind of action to help make the changes. However, interesting events have occurred and I really need some of your sage advice on how to handle.
The W started reading romance novels, something she’s done in the past but hasn’t had time for in the last few years. I find them rather funny but she finds them a real turn on. Now that’s not a bad thing. It’s resulted in some of the most arousing LM we’ve ever had (although the frequency is still every 6-8 weeks) and for the first time ever she’s reached O during “the act”. This is all uplifting (no pun intended) to me since I’d given up on her really experiencing the “throes of passion”.
Last night she woke me up to initiate LM (at 1 am, she’d been reading again) and we made out for a while but I just couldn’t do it. While I have the good excuses of a very taxing workout, there was something else. When she reads these novels she becomes this person and in effect falls in love with the character. The more I thought about this the more it bothered me. Isn't this is like an EA?
Ironic, she starts to feel the things in LM I’ve wanted for her and it' for a fictional character and not me.
Am I over-reacting? Or should I go buy more novels and enjoy the fringe benefits?
