Hi helpme22, Welcome to this forum, sorry you are here and sorry no one has helped you yet (it's humourous day today by the look of it). Your situation is much the same as all of ours where your relationship was fine at first and you looked forward to a perfect life but somehow it all drifted away. I had exactly the same start as you with great sex at first which I assumed would continue but by the time we were married various stresses had got in the way and it had vanished. For the whole of your 22 years I have been on 3x per year mercy sex until this summer when at last things are starting to improve thanks to help I have received here and from the books such as Michele's SSM and Shnarch's "Passionate Marriage". You really have done the right thing in tackling the problem early because otherwise the long dark years will fly past. SD
