I guess I don't feel like it is hurrying since H has been gone for over a year. Right now, I feel like he is moving on so maybe I should to. Getting alot of pushing from friends & family also - I know it is my choice but somedays I think they have a point. I don't talk about it much w/ anyone for this exact reason but I know many of them think I am being foolish by holding on & just putting off the inevitable.

Another reason is for my peace of mind due to finances. H has a truck that is in my name & his. I need to find out my options because I don't trust him to make the pmts. He doesn't care about his credit but I care about mine - what's left of it.

I know there are people on here that have been at this alot longer than me & people that have had their WAS come back after a couple years, even after living w/ OW etc. Guess this new OW situation has me feeling discouraged.

A far as myself - I've been trying to work on ways to keep myself busy. Been exercising more since starting weight loss & talking to friends again more. I am struggling w/ spending too much time alone tho. Most of my friends are now at a point in their lives where they are not available to go out or get together as much due to family commitments - kids, one just got married, another is pregnant etc. I need to figure out a way to meet some new people.

Thanks for checking in LNL. I'll stop by your thread soon.

slt