As for advice, not sure that I have anything to offer other than to do what is right for YOU.
It is easy for friends and outsiders to have the opinion to move on. I think that would have been my response had I not gone through this.
Here's the bottom line. None of us are in your shoes. We are in simular ones but not the same. Only you can decide what is the path for you.
You know that this process is VERY long and that your H is off in la la land. Does that mean he won't ever return? No one can say.
You also know that during this process there is much for you to learn about yourself.
For me, I have realized that I am not ready for anyone in my life. That doesn't mean that my XH is out of my life. We still see each other and are enjoying each others company. We both have many wounds that need time to mend. We are just being soft and fun with each other. I am ok, just hanging out and working on me and leaving him to his own issues. I have REALLY dropped the rope. I leave contact up to him. Otherwise I go about my life understanding there is much to do before I could even hope to be successul in a new R either with H or anyone else.
