Quote: ... each of you guys (and gals) can manage to keep working and working on your marriages when all signs point to the fact that things will never change.
What amazes me about this board is how much situations DO change. Many of the participants have made great strides. But it didn't happen in a day, a week or a month. It took 6 months, a year or more. And for each great leap forward, there have been backslides. I don't know how "newly" you are wed, but if it's been just a few months, then I would caution you to look at the long term. Changes occur gradually.
Quote: It's just that I've come to realize that I no longer care.
If you care enough to read the posts, it's clear that you do care.
I read SSM and it got me to realize that if I can change myself, my W will have no choice but to change. Of course I'm sympathetic to the premise of the book, but don't worry if your W isn't. It, togehter with other books and friends, can be a guide for you to change in a positive way.
Well, I've just convinced myself that my marriage is worth saving.
