Jeepers. I actually copied your note to your wife and saved it to my little SSM Board archive. Full of righteous indignation, yet POW right to the point. But I have to ask you the same question Madfrog asks: No kids? Why are you still there? I know I'm here because of kids....but I also know that as soon as I figure out that I'm setting before her/them a negative model for a healthy marriage, I am out of here.
