Last night I initiated via H's "just grab it" method and, folks, I do have to admit that he really likes this method. I wish it did more for me, is all. However, it works and he likes it so I keep it in the arsenal.
The sex was great and I had the best O I have had in years--maybe ever.
He didn't finish and this is the second (consecutive) time this week this has happened. What a bummer! I understand his difficulties but it really does take a wonderful experience (for me) and cast it in a different light, when the whole thing is over. I know that after I O, he is too worried that I am physically uncomfortable to be able to continue for himself. He will not, however, go first so it looks like it will be Honey Only sex from now until delivery! Ah my H has a way of putting himself into these dilemmas and I can only sit back and shake my head and wonder if/when he will ever knock it off.
The interesting thing is that I have told him that, right now, the ONLY physically pleasurable thing for me to encounter is sex. And maybe a foot massage. So there is not a time while we are ML that I am thinking, Sheesh wouldja hurry up. In fact, I have thought that only a handful of times since we married and would NEVER tell him that.
At any rate, this past week has been one of the most pleasant of the entire pregnancy. I think we are both starting to calm down a bit...with the realization that it is almost over.
Pregnancy is truly a hard time for me. I don't particularly care for being pg, though I don't hate it. I just don't seem to get as much out of the experience as some women do.
H's desire tanks; you all know that. In the first two pregnancies he cut me off after about 3 months and I spent the last months a hormonal lunatic. (ha! You guys thought I was bad at times during THIS one, you should have seen me on the Completely Celibate Program) During this last pg, he has made a stupendous effort to continue to be sexual and fight through his tendency to be turned off by it. I am really proud of him. He hasn't always been successful and I haven't always been appreciative of his (small) efforts but overall this pregnancy has FAR surpassed what I thought it would be.
Honey, who is off to go clean toilets. Ah, the glamorous job of a housewife.
Oh, God, what an awful, awful typo... I'm so sorry. WTF was I thinking? Oh yeah, I was just so stunned by how pretty you are that I wasn't paying attention...
That would probably be a way better back peddle if I were a guy....
Corri, LOL! Yeah that backpedal would normally work better on one of the fellas but hey I'm feeling desperate these days, so I'll take it where I can get it. Now what I need to find out is if you are adverse to sex with pregnant women.
Hey I had to up the titillation factor for our lurker Daybreak. lol
LOL I just spewed my coffee all over the screen reading this. 38 mos spread over 4 pregnancies, fine, but in one shot...yikes you'd be as big as an elephant. Maybe that's why elephants are so big
--GGB, who finds pregnant women very sexy, but would be hiding by month 18.
Quote: Last night I initiated via H's "just grab it" method and, folks, I do have to admit that he really likes this method. I wish it did more for me, is all. However, it works and he likes it so I keep it in the arsenal.
Hey, your one step ahead of me since I just managed to suggest to my H yesterday that he might let me try this method sometimes. I am imagining it as being fun if I can throw in a little context or role play. For instance, throw it in as an aggressive move in an argument by grabbing it and saying "I would really prefer Chinese to pizza.". Or pretend that he isn't even in the room and whatever exchange is going on is strictly between me and his c*ck. Or do it but pretend that I don't even know that I am doing it "I think you dropped some ketchup on your lap etc.".
I am going to treat the fact that he claims that watching porn is a surefire winner in much the same manner. For instance, I am going to order some porn that actually incorporates some plot but still has some hardcore sex scenes and I am going to order some porn that has a lot of the stuff that I like in it. I am also going to suggest that he should take some pictures of me or us. Perhaps I will even further exploit the voyeuristic side of his drive by suggesting that we go to an "exotic' nightclub together or visit a topless beach.
Now that I have a co-operative partner and I am no longer pathetically thin-skinned about my own sexual attractiveness the possibilities are endless.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
GGB, You know, the funny thing is I intellectually know that I am being psycho sometimes but I CANNOT SEE IT.
Well that didn't make sense. All I can say is that after the postpartum period is over, I will usually sit back and have a good laugh with H over all the ways that I thought I was acting rationally and wasn't.
Though since H has been putting out with this pregnancy, I can say that there have only been a few instances when I knew I was going hormonally whacko on him and couldn't stop myself.
In the first two, he would say in the most depressed voice, "I just wish I had my old wife back..." (read: cheerful, happy, funny) He hasn't said that this time so I would have to say that this is going much better.
Now if I was pg for 38 months, yeah, he'd have to move out.
Not really a lurker, though. I used to be very active on the boards (under a different user name) over a year ago but left the bb after a big blowup with W over what I had posted. Though I prefer to keep a low profile, I do have a couple of DB friends I keep in contact with by e-mail - thereby keeping W's privacy concerns abated...
Me 52, STBEX 52 D 17, S 12 M 20 years Em Sep since 2002, Phys Sep Sept 2009
