You know I am of two minds on this one. On one hand, I think it is totally reasonable that your wives desire a massage that does not turn into a bid for sex. Otherwise how are they supposed to ask for--and receive--what they need from you? If they hold back on asking for the massage cause they know it will turn into a bid for sex, then that is the breeding ground for resentment right. They should be able to ask for and receive a massage that does not always end in a grope. (I am writing this from the perspective of an LD lady...if I ever receive a massage that does NOT end in a grope I will be totally disgusted:)
On the other hand, if they are in any way naked, they should expect that this will be the natural reaction. Sex drives are a natural thing based on hormones, visual cues, etc. Accepting this as a fact of life would do these gals a world of good, instead of viewing it as something beastly that their mates "give in to".
