Just wanted to let you all know of the books that have helped me in my quest to LIVE and not just survive. They are not necessarily related to sex, but they are related to working on YOURSELF as that is the only person that you can really change anyway:
The Power of Now (I got the audio version) Loving What Is (I got the audio version) The Surrendered Wife
Another really good one (two, really) for me were Boundaries and Boundaries in Marriage by Cloud & Townsend. The latter particularly, but even though it repeated some info from the first, they were both really useful in general.
I am turning in revolution
these are the scars that silence carved
on me