Very touching story, dori. I often wonder what my father would have told me about my marital difficulties. I can't talk to my mom about it, because she'll just worry herself to death, and will end up sharing it with everyone. Same with my brothers and sister. My father would have given me some good advice, some humor, some strength....hmmm, kind of sounds like the SSM board.
It's so hard to lose the people that grounded us in our former years (you know what I mean...those who gave us direction and who set good examples).