I just started reading the chapter you mentioned, and I had to stop after the first couple of paragraphs.. I'll got into more detail on my own thread, but this is not what has happened in my case. I know that I have my own part in the deterioration of my M, but I've never been a nag. H is the one with low tolerance for clutter, and H also insisted a few years ago on taking over the finances. I am the surrendered wife, without my own consent. If this had been a mutual agreement, ok, but it's my H's way of controlling his life. Maybe at some point I'll be able to calm down a little and go back to read it, and maybe there is some good there, but I'm not able to see it right now.
