I wasn't trying to plug you into my relationship. My wife is a very strong woman as well. Last time she took one of the online language analysis tests that supposedly determine if you are male or female, she scored 83% male :-) That still makes us chuckle.
I think I do understand your relationship better now.
Your husband may indeed be in touch with his emotions, if so, then he is selfish.
Is he aware that he treats you with disrespect? Does he acknowledge your strengths? Have you discussed this with him, and if so, what was the approach both of you decided on in order to fix the problem?
MM. The first thing you have to decide is if you are willing to work on your marriage. You keep bringing up reasons why you might not want to stay married. I understand you are angry at your spouse.
The issue is not just sex. You are in a sex starved state because of your relationship.
You have to decide if you are going to directly address the issues you have brought up here, with your husband. You have to decide how much grace you are going to have for him while he gets used to the idea of change. You have to be willing to take even more crap than you already have if and when he is willing to work with you. You WILL have some changes to make yourself.
The above are all normal and expected items that trail along with change in a relationship. If you are expecting a spiritual, born again type experience to magically fix your relationship, or any past or future one, it isn't going to happen (and I don't think you think that).
There is absolutely nothing wrong with you being strong, or being strong and still wanting a more dominant male in your bed.
You had previously mentioned that your husband was tired of discussions. I don't know how you are going to do it, but you will have to discuss your relationship with him until he understands. You need to listen to him as well (I know you probably already do that).
If you decide to work on this with your husband, then expect some fallout. I think that the two of you owe each other a damn good try at working through this.
I will tell you something I have learned. It is so obvious, that it hurts, but I didn't see it. The one wrong thing that is hardest to change in a relationship, is the very thing that must be changed in order to save it.
Please let me know what you think.
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
