Quote: How do you feel about your husband? Is her admirable, strong, a good father, responsible, etc?
I do admire him in some ways. He definitely has a code of ethics that he lives by and he is an intelligent, sensitive funny and creative person. He is not a strong person IMO. In fact, he is always making statements like "I don't have anything to give.". He is a good father in some ways. He loves the kids and he interacts with them on a close personal level. I would say he's not so good at taking on the responsibilities of fatherhood. For instance, I don't think he ever thought about teaching the kids to ride their bikes. I would say he is somewhat irresponsible. For instance, I've had to stop him from driving drunk and he got fired from his last job for passive-aggressively failing to file an important safety report.
Quote: What key area in your relationship (sans sex) does he miss his obligations on the most? (bad sentence, sorry)
Basically he feels his obligations are to hold a full time job, spend some time interacting with the kids and take care of some of his personal needs like laundry (he doesn't like the way I fold). When I was working full time, he did all the laundry and paid the bills. I do everything else. As you might imagine there is a lot that doesn't get done.
Quote: What are his hobbies?
He is a pianist, a cinemaphile and an obsessive watcher of news programs and Seinfeld reruns. He loathes physical activity because he has severe eczema (this is also the reason why he doesn't do some chores) and a bad relationship with his father who is an exercise junkie and recently biked the Lewis and Clark trail at age 69.
Quote: How do your kids feel about him? Are there major issues?
The kids love him. All kids love him. He can be a charming clown when he's in one of his better moods. They generally come to me for any sort of actual parental support. This is probably my fault. I trained them to not bug Daddy. A sign that this is true is the fact that since I have started taking a very laid back approach with my son, my H has been becoming more involved in laying down the law about his cr*ppy grades. Unfortunately, he keeps hinting that I should be the one laying down the law.
Quote: Is this your first marriage? Hubby's?
Yes we married at 23 and 24. As I have indicated in other posts, we married because I was pregnant.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
