I hope the unpacking for IL's went well, and they can get moving into their own place. Having M problems is bad enough, but then having IL's to deal with in your own home has got to be a formula for some major stress!
You do sound great! What a difference it can make to be able to "see" yourself falling back into old habits, be able to recognize that, and then do something about it. If you know that you need some time alone, then make sure you get that time. You also need to take care of you while working on the M.
I know only too well about the talking in code. Last weekend we went to a garge sale for a bedroom set and the only thing H said was that it was for the bedroom upstairs, along with the fact that he thought it would match the wood in the room. First of all the wood doesn't even come close to being the same color as that in any of the bedrooms, and we have 3 bedrooms upstairs. If they are going to talk in code, then PLEASE give us enough clues so we can decode their talking.
I think that H wanting to rent out the apartment in a milestone and something that you can hang your hat on!
