Hi Pam I appreciate your input, and I have to say, I believe you are right on track. LOL regarding your comment on always wanting to DO SOMETHING....I hear ya, sister.

I am so blessed in so many ways, and I am praying now I think more than ever before. I truely believe that if God werent guiding through this mine field, all would have been lost long ago.

I find the tears and grief much harder to deal with than the anger, and as I think about it, I believe that is because of my pride or self interest. If he's furious at the b---h, I can think "See, I told you so, H!"....part of the difficulty in dealing with the tears I think comes from knowing that he cares so much about some other woman that it is tearing him up to lose her. Boy, that sticks in really sore places. So, I guess I need to pray to be able to let go of that and then maybe I will know better how to help.

Another part of the difficulty in dealing with the tears is that it is terribly difficult to see some one you love hurt so badly and not be able to "fix it" regardless of the reason for the hurt. I am a confirmed and chronic "fixer", working hard to over come that. I am such a fixer that when S was 2, the poor kid smashed his finger with a rock, I kissed his Owie away so good, I convinced him it didnt hurt. We found out a month later it was broken . If only I could do that now with H.

I've been reading your thread Pam, just not getting much posting done other than my sordid saga. How is your job search/resume updating going?

been around awhile!