one other little tidbit to record: this morning I asked H if he was "beginning to feel better", meaning emotionally. He said "I think so, it was certainly better than last weekend, and it's mostly anger now". I replied that maybe that's progress, since we both know that anger is a later stage in the process of grief, and he agreed. He did tell me that the weekends tend to be hard, since that is when he usually went to vist OW....so with that in mind, I'm going to try to focus on something special, just some little things, to occupy that time (as of this summer, Saturday mornings)....maybe one idea is to get up early and fix breakfast while he does chores, then we could either have breakfast in bed together or on the porch ( S usually sleeps till about 9)....I'll have to think of some other things, but that might be a good start. I've never known H to turn down an omelette or a steak! (or french toast, the guy does like to eat!)
