Other weekend tidbits:

I walked with H and spent 4 hours watching and old war movie with him (not my top choice, but so glad to be with him)...each time I mentioned doing it, H brightened up and said "you want to walk/watch with me?!?. later he actually thanked me for spending time with him, said how much it helped.

I asked him when he started to doubt his R w/OW, and he thought and said he'd always loved me, missed me terribly on their trip, but REALLY started doubt "them" in Feb. or March. I bet if I go back through my threads, that will be the time I posted that I sensed a "softening" in his attitude towards me and the kids....I know by mid march this was happening, because D noticed when she was home on spring break.

H said OW used to always get angry and accuse me of being a liar. I asked what she said I was lying about, because I never said much about the whole mess one way or another...H said he be excited about things at home and make a comment that I was making positive changes, and OW would go ballistic and say how it was all just a show to manipulate him and get him back and he'd see it was all just a lie....so that explains why he would seem so pleased for a while and then turn around and be so suspicious.

H said he talked about how precious our kids are to us, and how hard it had been to get S here, and that used to drive her wild....and she would have all kinds of put downs. Said he told her how much courage I have, and how I've shown it over and over, that it took so much courage for S to get here ( I had to give myself injections several times every day for 6 months, I've always had a needle phobia ) and that he's always admired me for that and my courage in this whole mess. According to H she would throw fits and pout for days when he said such things (guess I can understand that).

been around awhile!