Hi Dawn, I know you're right....RELAX!!!but I'm really having a hard time with that right now. Just really gun-shy, I guess. I do think he's trying to be reassuring though, since he sent me the copy of the friends email when he told me he was going out for a beer with the guys....I keep feeling if I can get a month or so down the road, I'll be better. I've lived with this hell for 11 months now, so surely I can do this. He commented last weekend that he was thinking he would do better if he could get a couple of weeks down the road from the breakup w/OW, so I guess we're thinking the same thing.