Hey Deb--I know what you mean about the fear of sharing your feelings. I know with my H, I have to let a liiiiitle bit out at a time, or he gets overwhelmed. Sometimes leaves me frustrated. But, I've learned that with him, in the end he's very supportive. It's all in my approach. I'm glad to hear that your H is receptive. That's a good sign.
Quote: I'd sent him a short email asking how he was doing because I hadnt heard from him, and told him I knew I was kind of weird and all over the place right now, that a lot of that was because I was still so afraid of losing him.
Sounds like this may also work with your H--telling him that he's not the one making you feel uncomfortable.
This approached worked wonders with my H. Mine is sooo sensitive to criticism, that I had to make a concerted effort at responding to the positive. So I would say to him that it wasn't his fault, he was doing things great, I loved how he kept me informed on xrm, but I was feeling uneasy. That all I needed was a little reassurance. I went waaay out of my way to make sure that his telling me about xrm's activies made me feel better. (Instead of griping at him when he didn't.)
The other thing that worked with my H was telling him he was great at x or z. It was funny how, all of the sudden, he started doing more of x or z.
Sometimes leaves me frustrated. But, I've learned that with him, in the end he's very supportive. It's all in my approach. 
I'm glad to hear that your H is receptive. That's a good sign. 
