It's the relief. The emotional burden is gone. Makes you tired.
Quote: When he told me "that other thing is over", I didn't say much. I was pretty noncommital. I am wishing now I had asked him if that means no more phone calls, etc., or what his thoughts are...he said "no going back this time".... I am tempted to ask him what his thoughts are about this, but I wonder if I should just let it ride and take it at face value?
Yes. (Although it's hard!)
Quote: I feel like he's going to need a lot of support and encouragement to make it through this...i'm sure the blood sucking leech OW is not going to suddenly see the error of her ways and let him go. I'm kind of expecting her to pull out every guilt-inducing trick in the book and throw it at him. I wouldnt even be surprized if she makes some suicidal gestures. I'm thinking really hard how I can support him in his efforts so he can withstand the "onslaught". I can sure use some input here.
I wouldn't be surprised. All you can do is be supportive, and let him handle it. I'm not sure how much you've kept up with my thread, but H's exroommate went off the deep end. (I think she's actually gone for good now!)
I had a bad gut reaction to xrm from the moment I first saw her. Something about her totally and completely creeped me out. She seemed...so...false somehow. H wouldn't tell me anything for a long time about her. I found out later, only a month after she had moved in, she started doing really weird stuff.
Anyway, I guess my point is, trust your gut about OW. (xOW?? ) I was right about xrm, it just wasn't obvious right away. (And yes, I went through a period where I had to look over my shoulder...)
