just an update, things seem to be "holding", that doesnt sound like much after just 36 hours, but H has gone back to OW so fast before, that I think it does count. One thing that's kind of weird, H is absolutely EXHAUSTED...the last 2 nights he's talked about how "hard" he's slept; last night I got home from work about 9:15, and he was in his recliner, almost asleep, just looking wiped out. very unusual. yet he doesnt have that "grief stricken" look that he has sometimes. This morning when I left for work, he was talking about how tired he was, that maybe he'd go back to bed for an hour...I told him maybe he should just crawl in and sleep as much as he needed to, and he said "maybe I will". this is VERY unusual. I hope he's not getting sick with the stuff I've got, but we thought he'd alread had it. I wonder if the exhaustion is related to the continual emotional turmoil of the A and getting to the point of deciding what to do? Has anyone else had this experience?
We have a long weekend coming up, I'm looking forward to a little extra time off, although it will be busy.
When he told me "that other thing is over", I didn't say much. I was pretty noncommital. I am wishing now I had asked him if that means no more phone calls, etc., or what his thoughts are...he said "no going back this time".... I am tempted to ask him what his thoughts are about this, but I wonder if I should just let it ride and take it at face value?
I feel like he's going to need a lot of support and encouragement to make it through this...i'm sure the blood sucking leech OW is not going to suddenly see the error of her ways and let him go. I'm kind of expecting her to pull out every guilt-inducing trick in the book and throw it at him. I wouldnt even be surprized if she makes some suicidal gestures. I'm thinking really hard how I can support him in his efforts so he can withstand the "onslaught". I can sure use some input here.
I asked him if I needed to be watching my back, and he said "no", but I'm not completely convinced. I say this because the woman has cold, dead, calculating "devil" eyes....I know that sounds dramatic but I don't know how else to describe it. I'm a big "eye" person, and I've never yet been led astray by the message I get in a person's eyes, I swear. And her eyes are the kind that make my blood run cold. So, I guess I will watch my back...and S's, and keep an eye on H's.
H told me OW has put herself on 40 mg. of Lexapro ( a newer antidepressaant.she gets them here at work and doesnt log them into the medication cabinet. this is a big no-no, I wont even go into the possible ramifications of this. But, I'm not sure, but I think that's a BIG dose of lexapro...Dr. tried me on 10 mg and it made me so sick we had to switch meds. My mom takes 5 mg because 10 is way to much for her. I guess what I'm getting at here is I'm thinking this woman is teetering on the edge in a lot of ways, and I'm not at all convinced she's going to go quietly.
