Quote: At the same time, I truely believe now that H NEEDS lots of displays of affection and verbal affirmation....
That's my H as well. I learned early on in my DBing that the H loved hearing ILY and getting gifts.
Quote: I was sound asleep, and heard H exclaim "oh crap" and he jumped out of bed and ran, I think, into the bathroom...
LOL!! Sorry, this is just too funny...
Quote: I believe we are both terrified of being hurt again so badly by the other.
Yes. My H has said as much on more than one occasion. He's amazingly vocal for a WAH.
Quote: Does any of this make any sense?
Yes...reminds me a lot of my own H...
I don't believe he ever got appropriate attention from his family. He pathologically avoids criticism, and seeks out any and all company he sees as being "on his side"--anybody who builds him up or makes him feel good about himself.
