weird, weird, weird, weird. Who would EVER think that an almost 50 year old guy would crave "romantic" attention from a woman????? It seems so juvenile, except, I don't believe he has ever gotten it in his life EXCEPT a tiny bit from me when we were first together, and of course from OW, who picked up on this unrecognized need and REALLY dished it out! H never dated much, because it was something his family really looked down on for guys and worked hard to "squelch". This seems so adolescent because it is. He missed out on those experiences at the developmentally appropriate time and that's why he's so driven now by this need.
OK, not a problem, I can do this and have fun doing it, especially when it seems to get such positive results. Why the heck did it take me so long to figure this out? Lord, the pain and misery we would have all been spared if I had.

And, H doesnt know how to ask for what he needs, he never learned that either. I don't think I did either. So it's almost like we are just beginning to make the effort to learn to know each other all over again. I really do believe he is making the effort, his steps are just so tiny you could miss them if you didnt look hard. When he asked me if I wanted to set on the porch swing Saturday, he had first asked if I was finished working outside and he should lock the door????? I said something about no, I was going to go work some more....some how it got the the point of one of us saying it was such a pretty evening we should go enjoy, and H said "I was going to ask that but I thought you were busy so I would just stay in and out of your way "...then he asked if I would like to go swing, and of course there's little I would like better....So I see we have been missing each others cues for YEARS.......

Does any of this make any sense?

been around awhile!