Quote: NG is in no shape to plan at the moment, he seems to be struggling with guilt, and to compound the matter, does not appear to want to talk about it. Seems like the best I can do is be a fun companion, and look out for improving my little space.
Still swimming. Slowly
May I add a couple of things to your "to do" list?
1. Read or re-read "men are from Mars, women are from venus"
2. Note, appreciate and praise the things NG IS doing
3. Be clear about what you do want and ask for it (directly, concisely, etc) without resentment
When I think back on my pre-bomb marriage, I realize that one of the biggest "negatives" I was contributing was personalizing h's behavior (or "non-behavior" when he didn't do things to help me!) and seething about it.
The bomb dropping put the "dishes in the sink" into perspective and once DB'ing took hold and I read M&V, I realized that I was approaching it wrong with my h (felt natural to me but not to him!)
and once DB'ing took hold and I read M&V, I realized that I was approaching it wrong with my h (felt natural to me but not to him!)
