Thinking about you today and the intiricate dance we all do with our spouses.
We want them to treat us with thoughtfulness, care and concern, but it doesn't seem to look like that after 15 years of marriage.
A long time ago I intercepted an OW e mail and it spoke about how H opened her car door for her. I was like WTF , he doesn't ever do that for me. Then I mentioned him doing it and he opened my car door for about a week and that was it. I wondered what would happen if I just stood outside the car door and waited, but I never tried that I just got in like the dutiful wife.
It is hard to get our needs met, isn't it? And during the db dance it seems like getting our needs met falls somewhere near the bottom of the list.
I'll be anxious to see how you come to terms in dealing with this.
Would your H have come and helped with the coffee in his pre OW days? Mine prob wouldn't have.
