I can really relate to the walking a few steps ahead bit, my H does that. And the H sitting around drinking wine when I am scurrying around doing everything else with the guests bit.
But I have a question - did you try just cheerfully asking him if he would give you a hand? Maybe he is so USED to not having to help, that he doesn't think about it! If you asked, he helped, and then you thanked him, he might start to twig! Remember, we need to ASK for what we want. Forget expecting them to just GET IT!!
I am nowhere near having my H come home, but I do think about how I wouldn't want to go back to those same behaviours that wound up making me resentful.
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
