I know it's the pits to be dealing with our H's ow issue. I am at a point where I know that if I ask/request/insinuate, H will shut down. I think I know why,too. He hasn't frigured out that I won't eat him! That's probably were NG is,too. Wanting that marriage R, trying to let ow down easily, and let's face it, coming up on the short end of things. These guys haven't figured out that you can't please everyone.
When you can't make a decision because you are torn between your heart and your head, listen to the half with the brain.
Hi - What a surreal couple of days. I got asked to fill in for a colleague who is unwell, facilitating an offsite workshop for a client. They picked a resot that does not believe in providing connectivity in rooms - man I've been going up the walls. Just got home, have about 5 mins before NG will walk in. Thanks everyone for feedback, will digest over weekend and hopefully resume normal posting on Monday. Ciao for now, Slowly
The begining of a 4 day week for NG and me - we are off on holiday on Friday - wahoo. We have a holiday home that we run to a couple of times year, last time we were there was Xmas last year when I found that the EA was in fact a PA, so in some ways I am dreading this, but know I have to get over it, and hope that the memories will not be too overwhelming
The end of last week was incredibly hectic, I was away for a couple of days, NG came back from his business trip and we went to a concert on Friday night. And NG bought me a verry nice Georg Jensen necklace - wonderful
To top it all, I had to make a roundtrip of 400 miles on Saturday to deliver a half day workshop, and NG decided he will drive me and hang around in the resort doing his work while I did mine. That he understood how difficult it was for me to step in to someone else's work at the last minute. And there I was fretting he might contact OW on Saturday while I was away
Sunday was a day of rest, we had brunch with some friends, and NG was setting up the wireless broadband account for our holiday home - another little 'idea' we tossed about and he has just jumped to with great gusto. I cooked his fav meal for dinner, and we just lolled about in front of the telly all night. Oh yes, we also got news from the estate agent that we have a buyer for the flat - wahoo
In a nutshell, we continue to re-build our relationship, by NOT talking about it, but by being super considerate with each other. I still have triggers, but the emotions they invoke are getting weaker all the time. NG still has OW's numbers in his cell phone memory, not sure why. This is a bit like the token on his key ring, but my guess is he will dig his heels in if I was to make this an issue. But I do wonder.
Still trying to understand my travel companion. Slowly
Sounds as tho you had a great week-end with NG. It's his behavior that counts...I have to keep reminding myself of that as well. My H doesn't bring up our R at all, but continues to make plans....Oct, Nov and Dec....with me, friends and family. That is big.
Try your hardest to be strong on your get-away to your holiday home....don't let the memories sabotage you....just enjoy. (Easy for me to say, I know)
Just want you to know, that I'm thinking of you...and noting all your steps in a pos direction. About the cell ph #....my H kept OW's on his for a while too....really bugged me.....but even looking at it was wrong of me, I know. Then, I finally looked again...when he got his new phone about a month ago....and it wasn't there. He didn't re-program it in. Now....no more snooping for Mooka....
Just have to remind myself to let it go....the past is the past.....pay attention to the NOW and keep letting those baby steps build day by day.
Hey Mooka - It is so good to know that what NG is going thru is pretty normal And yes, the holiday should be good, though I expect to still visit here - we are just chilling out at home - especially now that NG has the broadband sorted out.
My last few hours before taking off on leave - I've been looking forward to this break, the past couple of weeks have been beyond manic at work
Did I mention we seem to have found a buyer for the flat - I cannot tell you just what a relief this is One less responsibility. Lately I've been feeling like consolidation is where I'm at - emotionally, physically and financially.
We don't get broadband hooked up till late next week, so I may be scarce for a while. Be good everyone. Slowly
Slowy, I haven't been around much lately, but I just read some of your thread and it sounds like things are going good for you. I am so happy you are still working on things. I wish you the best of luck.
I know one day you will have what you want. You have been very loyal to your beliefs. See you soon.
And yes, the holiday should be good, though I expect to still visit here - we are just chilling out at home - especially now that NG has the broadband sorted out. 
One less responsibility. Lately I've been feeling like consolidation is where I'm at - emotionally, physically and financially. 