I know it's the pits to be dealing with our H's ow issue. I am at a point where I know that if I ask/request/insinuate, H will shut down. I think I know why,too. He hasn't frigured out that I won't eat him! That's probably were NG is,too. Wanting that marriage R, trying to let ow down easily, and let's face it, coming up on the short end of things. These guys haven't figured out that you can't please everyone.
When you can't make a decision because you are torn between your heart and your head, listen to the half with the brain.