Thanks to KAW for his male POV. Something to think about...in my high school, the cliques were horrendous. I was on the peripheral fringe of the "neat" ones. I didn't want to be like them, I saw them as self centered, spoiled, etc. For some reason, I was included in much of their activity. Perhaps b/c I did make it clear as to what I thought.
My H was the star athlete. However, he was not the sought after, popular one. We became friends. Best friends and hung out all the time. This is where I want to make a point to KAW. You didn't decide that friendships weren't that important. Me thinks you decided that you would do without them. It's a self-defense mechanism we all would use. It's human!!! You might think you would have a hard time forming face to face friendships, but I don't believe it. You have shown us on the bb that you are a caring, concerned , fun,, intelligent, thoughtful person. Who wouldn't want you for a face to face to friend?? So, next time you meet somebody, or try it on somebody at work, act as if that person was one of us on the bb. OK?
When you can't make a decision because you are torn between your heart and your head, listen to the half with the brain.
