I've just caught up on your stich, and you are really getting good input and processing this all very well. Yes your H is probably grieving the loss...it's the sh*ts from our perspective, but Michele actually addresses this for us LBS to try to understand. In hind sight....which I'm sooo good at, I think I can now pinpoint the time when my H was going through the same grieving-type process. And, yes, I believe he was depressed....he just stuck it out. My H has not let me in on his dealings with the OW yet...and may never. But, he is back in my court, trying very hard to work on US and our M.
I also like the feedback on taking on the little issues re: manners, thoughtfulness, etc. You make the first moves, w/o expectations....out of your own genuine kindness. Then, patiently see if you get some slight responses. He is probably quite self absorbed with his grieving to even realize he ISN'T doing the little things that make you feel good. I love the ILYs on the txt messaging. Enjoy that.
I like that you are taking time for YOU, too. That is so important. That is a huge lesson none of us should leave behind during this entire DBing process.....that IS what makes us solid, secure, attractive, confident people...growing and stretching...not becoming stagnant.
I really enjoy that you are so willing to share your journey with us all. It helps me a lot.
