Allow me to jump into this pool! I have had the experience of knowing my H since early high school. I knew his friends(or lack thereof). He had male buddies, but he wasn't into the drinking/partying scene. He didn't hang out with them very often. That has carried over into adulthood. He has said he can count his male friends on one hand. And you know what? They have always been the husbands of my friends. Given the activity level of all our kids, and the fact that the parents enjoyed each others company, all of us were always together. He has not maintained the friendships. Yes, Slowly, I think you have it right.
Quote: No one had ever taken the time to build up his confidence, and alas, I too fell for his bravado and failed to see that underneath it all, he is still a scared little boy.
This is going to take a tremendous amount of time. Sounds too like therapy would be good for these guys.
When you can't make a decision because you are torn between your heart and your head, listen to the half with the brain.
