I'm slowly getting here to post! But I haven't forgotten you.
I like Maya's suggestion. In fact, I have a new spin on that same suggestion for you.
WHAT IF....
NG had lost his mother recently? Would you be more inclined to demonstrate compassion toward him? Chances are, you wouldn't be engaging in self talk that said silently, "Come on, NG! When are you going to get over this and start thinking about me?"
I realize that OW and his mother are 2 different people in 2 different stratospheres. BUT he is grieving a loss. We may not agree with it, or even understand it... but if you can see things from this vantage point, he will one day get through the fog and be ready to put that behind him.
And from what I see here, he's making an effort to do just that. Remember your moniker, sweetie! It sounds like his is just "SLOWER".
Cheers to you on a cold day here in Colorado!
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Betsey 
