not so good - NG and I had one of those rare chat sessions just now, I asked him how he was doing and his response was that this was the longest without contact with OW, and that she was probably having a hard time. That she had always said that he was her true love and that even without contact she would continue to have those feelings. He is feeling that he was brutal with that final email. ugh. I should not ask, but he seems to still have all her numbers in his cell memory, and appears to keep looking at emails to/from her - this is not snooping you guys - things are out in the open. So I'm in a bit of a quandry - give him an outlet to chat and take on more hurt, or do my own thing, and let him find a way to fix himself (which may include reconnection with OW?)
Hey there, Slowly. Still on the rollercoaster but it looks like it is only on those last little dips before it stops altogether.
How about this:
Validate his feelings. Let him know that you can see how compassionate he is and then, let him know that if he really cares about her feelings, he will realize how important it is FOR HER, to get a clear message from him.
If he backtracks on his previous message he is really opening an aold wound for her. SHe needs to understand that it is over so that she can move on. If he backtracks she will never believe that it is over and she will be caught in limbo land forever.
