Slowly,

In reading back through your thread I found this little item that really hit me over the head.

Also, I learned not to take the first thing he says about a subject at face value. He has said so many things that are being denied now It takes a while to sift through the claims that are being made consistently - these are the more reliable ones.

This is one lesson that I just can't seem to learn. I am a HUGE word person. My mom was an English teacher, my dad owned an advertising agency so I grew up in a word environment, if that makes any sense. My LL is obviously words of affirmation. And I am ALWAYS a woman of my word.

But my prob is that I expect others to always mean what they say. My H says "I want a D" and I believe him, but he doesn't mean it apparently.

So all that to say that what you said really hit home for me today, this crappy Monday. I need to take myself and H a little less seriously in the "word" dept. I can stop getting myself all worked up in a tizzy when he doesn't say the right things or when what he says makes no sense, or blames me for something that is obv NOT my issue.

Pam

PS. I have a confession to make when I first started reading your thread, prob in June or so I used to think that NG was new guy, a replacement for your H or something. Duh, it took me a while to figure out that he was nice, not new.