Hi GBO and X - Thanks for the feedback and input The one about setting examples is a good one, and yes, the role reversal is a little counter intuitive, but I'm going to give it a shot

Went back to begining of this thread as I seemed to be feeling more content with progress back in late august than now. Just a little boost for myself - some positives:

+ we have had an offer on the flat - it is for a lot lower than we are asking for, but we may have to accept reality of a depressed market in these parts. it will be good to put this 'bad experience' behind us and move on

++ NG seems to want to spend even whole working days at home so we are together (actually I'm going to call time on this and head in to the office tomorrow, just need some space, you know)

+++ my time with friends is getting more fun. I keep wondering why I let myself drift away from such wonderful people... But, just looking forward

++++ have an appointment in a couple of weeks to get them cavities fixed. It is a big drama with me (and my brother) as we need antibiotics before any dental work - we seem to have some genetic exposure to infections

not so good - NG and I had one of those rare chat sessions just now, I asked him how he was doing and his response was that this was the longest without contact with OW, and that she was probably having a hard time. That she had always said that he was her true love and that even without contact she would continue to have those feelings. He is feeling that he was brutal with that final email. ugh. I should not ask, but he seems to still have all her numbers in his cell memory, and appears to keep looking at emails to/from her - this is not snooping you guys - things are out in the open. So I'm in a bit of a quandry - give him an outlet to chat and take on more hurt, or do my own thing, and let him find a way to fix himself (which may include reconnection with OW?)

Glad Monday is coming to an end. Slowly

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