Hi GBO - Yeah, he has a lot of fears and is currently choosing to deal with them by manipulating me/the situation. Take for example tonight. Friday nights are our normal nights out, hang out with friends, at a pub just unwind and get ready for the weekend. We were both home by mid-afternoon, had some tea and settled down to work. Come 7 pm, and I'm asking NG if he is ready to hit the road. He tells me he's cried off on 'our' behalf because he has a conference call at 9 pm and lots to prepare for it. I say 'oh, maybe I can leave you in peace and hang out with my GFs" and he goes, 'don't you want to have dinner with me (translated, aren't you going to get dinner for me)'
Now, I know I was both mad and upset that my Friday evening had been hijacked is such a high handed manner. I also know that this is new behaviour for NG, and that we need to get to the bottom of it. He was definitely stressed out with work, and I figured a showdown on considerate behaviour was the last thing he needed. So, seeing that I needed to eat too, I tossed a salad, we chowed down and spent the evening at home in surface peace, but for me at least, a great deal of confusion and some anger underneath the calm.
