Slowly, I'm sorry you're having a difficult time with memories today. I'm guessing that some of the gulfs between you and NG will need to be bridged at some point in order for you guys to make it (yes, mystery is good but dishonesty is deadly); I guess the questions are, when, how, etc. These are still early days for you too in terms of him severing contact. Perhaps he doesn't feel "safe" at this point? On some level, why should he get that but it does seem to help these guys open up.
Good for you for having distractions this weekend. Thinking of you.