Not surprising you're in a slump, under the circumstances, when you've been giving so much (esp of patience). Since you're speaking hypothetically, I assume you're NOT there in terms of deciding that's it's not attractive to stay....venting frustration?
So what are the positives that keep you there? There are so many. NG's out of town, right? What are you doing to anchor yourself these days when the current negatives threaten to engulf the potential positive future?
Everything I have read suggests that when both partners are back in the marriage and willing to work that the prognosis is good. That the wayward spouse has to go through withdrawal for a *while* and that this is very painful, but if can see it through there will be a turn-around. I think the key is how to take care of yourself in the meantime. I suppose the big assumption I'm making is, is NG really committing to the marriage--do you think he is? And willing to work? In which case, it'll be okay. I think the letter to OW was a brilliant start.
