Hi KAW - Your Mars Venus perspective on expectations has been a Godsend. I spent the weekend observing NG a little more objectively, and indeed did find that in his own way, he is trying to get thing to a better place. So once again, there is learning. For us to navigate through the restoration of our relationship to something stronger, I'll need to remain focused on goals and babysteps, watch for positives and figure out to handle the downs as we encounter them.
An important issue that we need to deal with is NG (apparently) not feeling appreciated by me So, at least a couple of times a day, I need to find opportunities to thank him, to acknowledge his importance in my life. This I do for myself as well as for him. By taking so much of what's around me for granted, I feel I have missed on so many joys. Pausing to articulate appreciation seems to make the wonder go further.
So, at least a couple of times a day, I need to find opportunities to thank him, to acknowledge his importance in my life. This I do for myself as well as for him. By taking so much of what's around me for granted, I feel I have missed on so many joys. Pausing to articulate appreciation seems to make the wonder go further. 
Slowly 
