Right. Those of us who have tried to own or to fix our H's problems (self-esteem, depression, wounded child stuff, etc.) have ended up being resented. The good part--I hope--of this midlife crash is that they learn to own their own problems and begin to deal with them in a better way. Less medication (alcohol, OW, whatever) and more taking responsibility for their feelings.
Which isn't to say don't be responsible for yourself--as for me, I was insensitive and selfish at times--just be clear on the boundaries.
What a good epiphany, Slowly. I hope things are continuing to head in a good direction.
