GBO - I will post the more relevant and less sensitive parts of that parting email.
In the meantime, it occured to me that the one thing that has kept NGs mind away from OW has been the new house. I think he feels like it is his chance to show me a lot of things.
When we were discussing the lease, he said to the agent 'My wife has her heart set on it, and though we have not sold the flat, I'm going to take this house' - this was possibly his way of 'cherishing'. Since moving in, the man has been relentless in tidying up around the place, hanging pictures, clearing the garden which is a bit of a forest etc. It feels like he has thrown himself into this house as a means of escape too.
Most evenings, we are so tired we sleep like the dead. Have been late getting up in the mornings, lots of and we both drag ourselves off to work, and come home earlier every day.
Just wanted to put this out there - strong distraction is important to help transition away from OP. I suppose in some ways, taking on a lease while we had a mortgage was a big 180 for me; financially I have been the careful, organised one. This just smacked of throwing caution to the wind
