Hi KAW - You are absolutely right, it is a case of maintaining the slow pace. It does feel overwhelming sometimes, but hpefully the really tough part is over.
Quote: We had a brief chat about how he regretted the hurt all this has caused, and when I asked him if he regretted the affair, his response was he does not understand WHY the affair happened, and so how can he regret something he does not understand.
This reminds me of another "Piecer" who seems to fairly recently left the bb. Lisakate32 struggle for quite some time with the lack of remorse her H had about having an A ... until while driving down the road one day it finaly struck him so hard he had to pull over until he could regain his composure. It may take a while, but I wouldn't be surprised if NG out of the blue has a lightbulb moment just like that!
Well, of course I had to look up Lisakate 32 and have bumped up the most recent thread, now to go back and see what worked there - thanks so much KAW for pointing me once again in the right direction.
Slowly 
