Thanks for starting this thread. Your threads-- and your strength-- gave me so much to think about and deal with in my own life when I first came to this BB--you have no idea how much they helped me... and they still do.
I nearly hate to join the chorus of successful women who are not reconciling their Ms... but there it is. I'm really pleased with where DBing has taken me. I've rediscovered pieces of me I'd put aside. I am stronger, more accomplished, more spiritually connected, more centered, more physically fit, more visible to myself and others, a better and more direct communicator, and have better relationships with friends and family than at any other time in my life. I'm having fun and while separated have met some wonderful new friends who are moving forward and growing in their own lives.
I am not "with" my H now... but DBing DID "work" not just for my own growth, but to draw him back to me-- several times. I'm sure if asked he'd tell you about my positive changes.
I have to admit that I even smile sometimes when I overhear those who know us both say that my H clearly must be crazy to let me go... that sentiment, my friends, is the result of what I learned right here.
Some WAS aren't ready to take the next steps and do their piece. We can't control whether they do. Mine was one of those... and I came to realize that my terms and my timeline do have to be 50% of any relationship going forward.
I hope that some of the reconciling successes will also post here. They're out there.
