You said you weren't grasping at straws, but I think that you are....
From what I can see (if you are asking about your H) there hasn't been any new developments in your sitch.
Patience my dear. You have to DB and let some time go by. Neither myself or anyone else here can give you a timeline, although I have seen some guesses that affairs run their course around the 6 month mark. That is in no way definitive.
I would say from your posts that you still need to work on focusing on yourself. There is really not alot you can do about your H. The sooner you shift the focus to yourself, the sooner you will see results.
Go get that job you want, spend quality time with your family and friends, and do things that you enjoy. Let your husband play out his issues, while seeing the changes in you. If you focus on him at all, you will be disappointed in him and his actions time after time.
