I didn't make a strong judgement call...I said you MIGHT not get your H back. You just MIGHT get him back too.
You will many instances on this board of the spouse starting to come back, only to leave again (see Tigerbuck's tale of woe). I would just say don't get your hopes up too soon. When in your situation, it is important to keep an even keel - not too high and not too low. You will see what looks like great improvements (he is back in the house, you ML) and great disappointments (he stops calling abruptly, he is afraid of the same ole same).
I am merely pointing out that you might feel better by taking control of the situation. Your H is totally running the show here, with you reacting to everything he does. If it were me, I would stop reacting to him and start acting the way I preferred to act.
Your H is a "pathological liar". So if you can't really believe anything he says, why would you want to react to every little thing? That alone is wearing you out emotionally. I wouldn't put too much stock in anything this guy says or does in the short term. Actions speak louder than words, and to come and stay with you for a few days doesn't prove a whole lot. He left again when it was convenient for him to do so, knowing by your actions that you would have him back anytime (sorry if that hurt, but more than likely true).
Think about the course you want to take (using DR) and stick to it. Reading your posts, you know what to do, and when you do something you shouldn't too. If you can manage to stick to a course of action, you will probably see some positive results (at least you will be in charge of the situation and hence your emotions a little more).
I hope this helps. There are no magic bullets here (these sitches suck, but it is what it is) but DBing seems to be the only chance that there is in situations like these. Let go of the rope!
