My H has even commented on how much more productive I am when we are having lots of sex. I just feel motivated, alive, GOOD, refreshed, energetic.
I am not deliberately thinking, Ha ha! I got some, now I will do some spring cleaning.. or anything like that. I just feel mentally jazzed and I WANT to be active and productive. The side benefit is that the things that I choose to pour my productivity into are also things that my H appreciates. So he may see that as me "paying him back" but that is not the case.
Conversely, when my needs are not being met I feel lethargic and have no motivation to do anything. Most of this is due to a mild depression that seeps over me when we are not ML.
I do see signs of this in my H although it is not sex related, of course. But when I engage in a good religious conversation with him, he is positively pumped.
