Quote: I think it just gives you less to be resentful about.
My W wants me to cut up some branches from a tree I trimmed the other day. It took a while for me to do the initial job of trimming, until I realized that they might do some damage to the house. Now that I've cut them down, they're kind hidden next to our house. No immediate danger. They're not going anywhere. They're not high on my priority list. Plus, I can't cut them up when I am watching DD3, which is what I do every afternoon and evening. I am not motivated to do this job. I am already a pretty decent husband. I don't ask for much. I wonder if she realizes how motivated I would be to please her, if she just put forth some effort to please me?
Hairdog
yeah, I think my current tack is to reduce the resentment factor as much as possible. The goal is to make ME as happy as possible. Since the W seems perfectly happy as is, no point in making any other efforts. Of course that leaves me resenting the hell out of the fact that i am jerking off as much at age 33, married with 2 kids than I was at age 17, single living at home... and we come full circle to some comments that Corri made in a different thread. Once I have given W enough time to try and "fix herself" (restore her sex drive using medicine) I will lay out my requirements for a happy marriage and make it her decision to meet or not meet my needs. The ONLY thing that keeps me at home right now are my kids. Without them I'd have been out the door a while back. oh yeah, and a separate bank account is also a good thing should I decide to go for the big D.
As far as your branches go, I think they need to season a while before you can use them for a nice bonfire in the backyard with the kids. Smores, yum!
The differentiation song:
All I want to do
Is be more like me
And be less like you
Linkin Park
